This post is part of the 📖 The Almanack of Naval Ravikant series.
Today, I am still reading Envy Is the Enemy of Happiness section of the HAPPINESS chapter from the book, The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness written by Author, Jack Butcher.
Getting rich is not just about luck; happiness is not just a trait we are born with. These aspirations may seem out of reach, but building wealth and being happy are skills we can learn.
So what are these skills, and how do we learn them? What are the principles that should guide our efforts? What does progress really look like?
The Book The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness is a collection of Naval’s wisdom and experience from the last ten years, shared as a curation of his most insightful interviews and poignant reflections.
Yesterday, I started reading Every Desire Is a Chosen Unhappiness section from the HAPPINESS chapter.
Envy Is the Enemy of Happiness
The enemy of peace of mind is expectations drilled into you by society and other people.
We’re like bees or ants. We are such social creatures. We’re externally programmed and driven. We don’t know how to play and win these single-player games anymore. We compete purely in multi-player games.
Socially, we’re told, “Go work out. Go look good.” That’s a multi-player competitive game.
Other people can see if I’m doing a good job or not. We’re told, “Go make money. Go buy a big house.” Again, external multi-player competitive game.
Training yourself to be happy is completely internal. There is no external progress, no external validation. You’re competing against yourself—it is a single-player game.
The reality is life is a single-player game. You’re born alone. You’re going to die alone. All of your interpretations are alone. All your memories are alone.
You’re gone in three generations, and nobody cares. Before you showed up, nobody cared. It’s all single player.
Perhaps one reason why yoga and meditation are hard to sustain is they have no extrinsic value—purely single-player games.
Jealousy was a tough emotion for me to overcome. It’s such a toxic emotion because you’re no better off with jealousy.
You’re unhappier, and the person you’re jealous of is still successful or good-looking or whatever they are.
One day, I realised that I couldn’t just choose little aspects of their life with all these people I was jealous of.
If you’re not willing to do a wholesale, 24⁄7, 100 per cent swap with who that person is, then there is no point in being jealous.
Once I realised, jealousy faded away because I don’t want to be anybody else. I’m perfectly happy being me.
That’s it for today. Tomorrow, we will read the Happiness Is Built by Habits section from the HAPPINESS chapter from this great book.
Author(s): Eric Jorgenson
Part 20 of 33 in the 📖 The Almanack of Naval Ravikant book series.